Monday, February 15, 2010

Switching Gears

Well, since Eric isn't here... I guess I'll just talk to the keyboard. Wow, my life is sad these days. I wonder sometimes if my mom ever felt this way when my dad worked late, and then of course I realize...NO! How could she? I mean I was at home with her right!? Thank goodness for my own kids. Otherwise, the nights would be super lonely.
Ok... so it seems I'm wallowing in self-pity tonight. I need to snap out of that!

So, we had Emma's 3rd Quarter conference the other day and it was less than stellar. It was disappointing. I guess I knew that Emma was struggling at home, but I didn't realize it had transferred to school. The sad thing is, I take the blame on myself. I have pushed her so hard that she doesn't want to do anything! Who can blame her... In case you don't know me... I'm a wee bit aggressive. All in all the whole thing has been a wake up to me as a mom. I have learned that all people aren't me. (shocker right!) Emma has a different learning style and motivation than I have and I need to learn to meet that. I can say that since I have had this little enlightenment and changed my way of addressing her there has already been a turn around even in the short few days since the conference. Example: Tonight she took the book out of my hands and told me to stop reading because she wanted to do it. That is HUGE! Woohoo!

All in all, I was crushed, but not defeated. I think that I needed it for the sake of my relationship with Emma. As parents I think we are called to be their cheerleaders. Who else is going to do it if we don't? So, I'm switching gears. We shall see if she reaps the rewards.

2 comments:

Angel said...

I'll pray for you two. You are a great Mom. And Emma loves you. It's all about grace darlin'. As I always say, we're not perfect moms and we never will be. But God created Emma because ONLY you (Eric, too) were meant to help her see and experience her God-given gifts and talents.

let's get together soon. since eric is working later these days, i can come over one evening after ryan gets home...or maybe we can meet for coffee...

love ya!

Heather H said...

you are SUCH a good mom. i love to see you whip her right into shape (just like i do with Annie).

it's awesome that you can see what the issue is and know how to help her. most people never see it (or refuse to -- or are in denial) .. but, girl - you are head on just going to the root and i respect that so much.

keep it up. she's going to be with Annie Lou next year .. i have no doubts.

xo